A wise piece of advice that I'm sure we have all heard at one point, is that we should only depend on ourselves. Anyone in your life can leave you at any moment, but one thing that is for certain, is that you can never leave yourself. As soon as you stop relying on other people for your own benefits, and begin relying on yourself and your own abilities, the only concern that will cross your mind will be yourself. You wouldn't have to waste toxic thoughts on comparing yourself to others. Instead of waiting for others to make you happy, you could be able to achieve that happiness on your own. This method of happiness favors a strong state of independence, however it seems quite lonely.
Depending on others to make you happy may leave you vulnerable to getting hurt if they ever abandon you. However, the treatments for mental disorders such as clinical depression and anxiety disorder both include cognitive therapy. Without the dependence on a therapist, one with a mental illness may be considered hopeless when it comes to happiness. In addition, spending time with the people you love is said to be an effective way of attaining happiness.
I am very conflicted when it comes to where I should search for my own happiness. Obviously my inner conflict has nothing to do with your own search, but I would like to thank you for using your time to read this. How would you search for happiness? Would you depend on yourself to be happy, or would you depend on others to make you happy?
Coming from someone who also debates on where to put my happiness, I believe you should put it into both yourself and others. I find it very hard to only focus on myself with no human contact. My friends have helped me be in a better state of mind. If one of your friends were to leave, obviously that would hurt; but the part of you that focused on yourself would help ease the pain in the long run. My advice to others would be to find a source of happiness in your friends and hanging out with them, while also finding happiness in hobbies and just being you.
ReplyDeleteI believe you should put your happiness onto others, but also learn how to put it on yourself and be okay with just you. Make it balanced. Personally, I think that if you put too much happiness into someone, and depend on them at all times, there is a chance you will be disappointed with the outcome of the relationship/friendship/etc. and left with yourself, but then there are other people who will stick with you through thick and thin. This is why I believe you should not only put your joy onto others, but depend on yourself as a source of happiness too because then you have your own interests that keep you happy.
ReplyDeleteI strongly agree with Ashlyn and Makaela. I believe its a good thing to put happiness on others but it's more positive to make yourself happy as well. It's a great feeling to know that you make others happy but it shoukd be balanced with self appreciation too. I think you should be as happy as how you make others. It should be balanced. In everyone relationship or even friendship, there should always be a balance on happiness, whether its the person you are trying to make happy or yourself. I prefer being a source of happiness to my friends because it makes me happy knowing I could make their day. I like giving off positive vibes rather than negative vibes.
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